“It’s dangerous to go alone,” is just as true now as it was in 1986. That’s why we’re here, after all – to foster a supportive video game community and to be here for you when you need us. But for all of that, it’s even better to have people around – friends and loved ones you can rely on.
If that sounds like a tall order, swing by Geek & Sundry, where our own Dr. B has broken down six rules for building relationships (whether they’re romantic or platonic).
Authenticity Is Key
Authenticity is so important. What I mean by that is being honest with your values, what you want, who you are, and what you like and dislike. You can hide it for a while but not forever. Even if you could hide it forever, that sounds exhausting. Why would someone want to be in a relationship where they can’t be relaxed and honest about what they like and who they are?
Authenticity also means being honest about why you want what you want. Do you want to meet someone because you value others and their company? Do you want to meet people because you want others to value you? Do you want people with whom to share your time? The answers are important, as they dictate how you should approach meeting people. It’s okay to want to be admired, but if that’s your primary goal, relationships become one-sided. In that case, maybe it’s not a friend you’re really looking for, but a fan. That’s fine, but be honest about it.
Already a social butterfly? These tips make a great refresher on not just making friends, but being a good friend in turn. Take a look–and be sure to share your thoughts in the comments.